The following excerpt is from a long and eloquent comment, which I would title: Everybody has a Story. It's worth going back and reading the whole comment, including its context, as Lux's words, while meant as a cautionary tale for all of us, were also an effort to teach another the same lesson someone taught him:
"In my younger years I hung out in pool halls and such places and in one place an old white guy used to come in with a walrus mustache, army fatigue coat and some crazy farmer kind of hat. He would come in and eat food off plates that people left around. I was going to "goof" on him to maintain my status, but an older black guy said to back off. "He's got brain damage from the beating he took in the freedom rides." True story.Some of you may wonder about me of late.... what's up? How come she's bothered by the nit-picking and nay-saying of one bad apple at TPM? And finally reached her limit? Or maybe we could wonder why someone fails to heed the warning and the teaching of Lux Umbra Dei?
I was making some easy judgments, but they didn't take into fact the authenticity of that man's life as an individual. It was a turning point for me and I think that was the moment I started trying to see under the generalizations- to the people to the common humanity."
So what's up?
Family burdens, folks. As Lux says, everyone has a story. And since there's no older black guy to tell mine, I'll be brief and explain why I've decided a sabbatical is in order, since TPM has become more of a stressor than a solace just now, one bad apple being that last straw on the proverbial haystack: Election night was an early and sombre one in our household, since Mr. TheraP had a biopsy at 8 am the very next morning. And Thanksgiving has a bit of cloud over it, as first thing next Monday we meet with the surgeon and the oncologist. The good news is the Medical College is only 5 minutes away. But so are the elderly parents: And the drumbeat of falling markets has left them (86 and 91) with the financial conundrum of every other elderly couple still living at home - assets they counted on dwindling, just as they should be moving to get the care they need. Just the other day, the NYTimes could have written their story in this article. And that's a factor too.
Suffice it to say I've had it with the nit-picking and being harassed for ignoring the nit-picking. Good discussion is worth my time and effort. But annoying distractions at this particular time aren't worth it. I've got enough on my plate.
Just remember Lux Umbra Dei's wisdom: Everyone has a story.